Domestic Abuse is a criminal offence

You have the right to feel safe in your home which is why we take any report of domestic abuse or violence extremely seriously. Domestic Abuse is everyone’s responsibility. Don’t just sit back, report it.

If you are worried about anyone, please contact us or see the list of specialist services here or contact mhs homes on 01634 565333 (9am - 5pm, Monday to Friday).

Your safety is priority. If you, or someone you know is in immediate danger, dial 999 and ask for the police.

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How to get help and support if you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse

If you're in immediate danger

Call 999 immediately if you or someone you know is in danger.

If you need the police but can't speak

If you're in danger and unable to talk on the phone, listen to the questions from the operator and if possible respond by coughing or tapping the head set.

On a mobile you may be prompted to press 55, this will transfer your call to the police.

On a landline if only background noise can be heard and operators cannot decide whether an emergency service is needed, then you will be connected to a police call handler.

If you replace the handset, the landline may remain connected for 45 seconds in case you pick up again.

When 999 calls are made from landlines, information about your location should be automatically available to the call handlers to help provide a response.

If you're not in immediate danger

If someone isn't in immediate danger and needs help, contact the police on 101.

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Support services for domestic abuse

This is a list of organisations you can get in touch with for support.

Domestic abuse support services in Kent and Medway

Domestic abuse services website


Domestic Abuse One Stop Shop

Sunlight Centre, Richmond Road, Gillingham

Every Tuesday - 9.30am - 12noon (no appointment needed)

 

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Choices - Providing specialist domestic abuse services

Choices website

Helpline 0800 917 9948

Email: info@choicesdaservice.org.uk

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Medway Council

Report adult abuse

Medway Council website

Call 01634 334466 (8:30am - 5pm). Outside of these hours call 03000 419 191.

Report concern about a child

Medway Council website

If you think the child is at immediate risk of harm call straightaway on 01634 334 466 Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm outside of these hours call 03000 419 191.

 

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Oasis Domestic Abuse Service

Oasis Domestic Abuse Service is a charity that helps adults, children and young people in Kent and Medway build a safe, positive future free from harm.

Oasis Domestic Abuse Service website

Call: 0800 917 9948 (Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday 9.30am – 11.30am, 12.30 – 2.30pm;
Thursday and Friday 9.30am – 11.30am).

Outside of these hours call 0808 2000 247

 

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Kent County Council

Concerned about an adult?

Kent County Council website

Call 03000 41 61 61 (text relay 18001 03000 41 61 61)

Email social.services@kent.gov.uk

Concerned about a child?

Kent County Council website

Call 03000 41 11 11 (text relay 18001 03000 41 11 11)

Email social.services@kent.gov.uk

 

 

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Kent Police

Kent Police website

Report domestic abuse to Kent Police online or call them on 101.

If you're in immediate danger call 999 immediately.

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What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse as an incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading and violent behaviour, including sexual violence, in the majority of cases by a partner or ex-partner, but also by a family member or carer.

You can be abused by anyone who is over 16 years old with whom you have a relationship with.

Domestic abuse is not just about hurting someone physically or sexually. Domestic abuse can take many forms, some of which can be hidden and not easy to recognise. mhs homes understand the list below is not exhaustive and every individual case of domestic abuse is unique.

It does not matter if the abuse is continuous or a one-off incident.

ANYONE can be a victim of domestic abuse, regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, socio-economic status, sexuality, disability or background.

Do you think you may be perpetrating domestic abuse?

If you do, and you want to change your behaviour, help is out there.

Speak to one of our support officers, by calling us on 01634 565333, or contact Kent Community Domestic Abuse Programme (CDAP), which is a local service designed to help men who feel their behaviour towards their partner has been, or is still, abusive.

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What we can do to help

First off, anything you tell us will be kept confidential unless we are legally required to report it. We won’t tell the person that you spoke to us. We will treat all reports as a priority.

We can:

Help you find the right support with specialist services

Our team of support workers can offer housing support and advice, talk with you about your options and will work with other agencies to get the support you need.

Help you find emergency accommodation or put you in touch with a refuge if you are in immediate danger.

Provide extra security measures to your home such as:

  • Additional security lighting
  • Fit extra locks and chains on doors
  • Install visual security measures
  • Arrange a fireproof letterbox through Kent Fire & Rescue

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Why do people stay in an abusive relationship?

There are lots of different reasons why people stay in abusive relationships:

  • You might feel frightened to leave, as you worry that the person abusing you will try and stop you and become even more violent.
  • You might rely on the person abusing you for practical or financial support.
  • You worry about losing your home and access to your children or family members.
  • You may enjoy the good times you have with them and keep hoping it won’t happen again.
  • They may have threatened to harm people you care about if you leave.
  • You may be reliant on the person abusing you because of your legal or immigration status.
  • You may feel you have no choice but to stay.

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DAHA accreditation

We are working on improving our approach towards domestic abuse and are proud to be working towards an accreditation with the Domestic Abuse Housing Alliance (DAHA). We are always grateful to receive comments and feedback on the way we handle domestic abuse, so please get in touch.

 

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Statistics 

Although data on domestic abuse is not 100% accurate, the Crime Survey of England and Wales (CSEW) offers the best data available. It shows that:

  • Around one in four women have experienced domestic abuse since the age of 16.
  • For men, the figure is around 1 in 7.
  • In the year ending December 2023, the police recorded a domestic abuse offence approximately every 40 seconds (ONS, 2024).